Do you have a day planner?
Do you have a calendar or schedule where you plan out your activities?
A lot of people plan their careers. They have a virtual or physical planner where they keep track of their work commitments. They take their job seriously and know that if they schedule their professional life, they can be more successful than if they take it as it comes.
Unfortunately, many people don’t do that with their personal lives.
That’s too bad. We’ve known for a long time that the human brain loves to be given marching orders. It was designed to respond favorably to order and habitual behavior. If you want deeper connections, you should schedule the experiences that build and maintain them, this includes planning quality time with loves ones.
Who Do You Want a More Meaningful Relationship With?
It’s been proven that deep relationships make you less likely to develop disease or become sick. Your mind, body, and emotions benefit. The more people you truly understand on a deep level and connect with in a meaningful way, the happier and healthier you will be.
This means that when you connect with someone in a big way, you get a significant boost to your well-being.
Who wouldn’t like that in their lives?
To experience all these wonderful benefits of a healthy social life, ask yourself who you can connect with on a deeper level.
Creating Meaningful Relationships Through Intentional Relationship Building
Once you have that person in mind, sit down and ask yourself some questions.
- What do they like to do?
- What values are important to them?
- Do they like traveling or knitting, or reading?
- What vices do they have that they wish they could defeat?
- What are their big goals?
If you don’t know the answers to these questions, or at least have some general idea of their response, what can you do to discover those answers? In many cases, it doesn’t make sense to come out and ask big questions like this. You can spend more time with that person in experiences and activities they enjoy. This helps you indirectly learn that information.
Schedule time for those activities. Talk a lot, and listen. Remember your ultimate goal, to get to know the person better. Be flexible and understand that a deep connection might mean a relationship with someone that’s unlike you in many ways. Opposites often attract.
Keep these things in mind and schedule the time and emotional energy required to develop a deep and meaningful relationship. Offer a time and environment that’s comfortable to them, be yourself, and do this regularly to form a strong, healthy connection.
